Question to ask when first dating
And even if you didn’t study the exact same thing, marriages were also more likely to occur between people who studied in similar fields, like the humanities, science, or law.
Of course, there’s no need to write someone off for having a different educational background, but this question could provide some helpful context beyond your date’s day job.
“If you value your downtime and don’t love family ‘obligations,’ you’re going to want to know what you’re getting into.” Only ask this if the date has gone well, of course, but research suggests that kissing plays an important role in how we choose our partners.
Surveys indicated that both women and men (but especially women) use kissing as a way to test out and evaluate a potential partner.
“You are getting an idea of how your date feels about making commitments,” Derrichs explains.
“If someone still parties a lot, seems to have too many plans (if you ask them about more weekends and seem to get the same response), or just spends most weekends working, it may be that they are not relationship ready,” says Stef Safran, matchmaker and founder of Stef and The City.“Is this a person who is very family-oriented and heads home for every Memorial day, baptism, and bat mitzvah?” asks Justin Lioi, a men’s mental health and relationship expert.“If you get a sense that they have a routine, but one that leaves room for flexibility and fun, then you may get insight that this person could be worth that second date.” And if you’re staring down a second date, don’t miss these 40 irresistible second date ideas.If you don’t know what they do for a living, you don’t have to straight up ask them.