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Measuring responses to fictitious job applications, they found that women between 64 and 66 needed to apply to nearly twice as many jobs to get the same number of interviews as a woman between 29 and 31. Women are especially likely to suffer from age discrimination because “physical appearance matters more for women” and “age detracts more from physical appearance for women than for men.” (I’d argue that the second claim is a reflection of the author’s experiences in a sexist society).
Younger women married to older men may end up spending more of their golden years engaged in care labor. Women married to older men may find themselves taking care of him for years — and left without anyone to care for them as they age.
But it’s trumpeted in unscientific terms — wildly overstating the claims made by practicing scientists — and disseminated with the aim of shoring up a system that benefits men rather than rigorously establishing what’s true.
It’s myopic to delve into this research without also examining the society that brought it about.
It’s an accepted idea that men are evolutionarily predisposed to want to fuck women at the peak of their fertility — that is, in the first half of their twenties.
Women simply can’t help it that, in the words of Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder, “From the time you’re twenty-two, you’ll be less hot than a twenty-year-old, based on [OKCupid’s] data. ” Should every woman over 22 resign herself to her supposedly natural place on a steep downhill slide? Since it’s an idea that reinforces misogyny in both the romantic and professional lives of women, plenty of people would like to believe it. Census data, men are, on average, 1.84 years older than their wives at marriage.
But because detailed birth, death, and marriage records from the Pleistocene don’t exist, we don’t have direct evidence for any evolutionary advantages tied to age differences.
Those on Team Evolution point to the prevalence of the pattern as evidence that it’s universal, or nearly so.
In a major study of human mating done in 1989, evolutionary psychologist David Buss found that in each of the 37 cultures he surveyed, men preferred to marry younger women, by an average of 2.66 years, and women preferred older men, by an average of 3.42 years.
And researchers suggest that the drive to seek younger, peak-fertility women is balanced by an evolutionary drive toward seeking a partner similar in age, which makes co-parenting easier.
On the other side of the debate are the social structural theorists, who hypothesize that the difference in preferred age for a partner is the product of societally determined gender roles.